tbh the whole living on my own music video has big trickster god energy and if you haven’t seen it then you need to
people were deadass watching this video in 1985 and going, “i think freddie mercury might be uhhhh not straight???” and other people were like “yeah right, psh, whatever”
I’m glad that the queer club scene really hasn’t changed much
I think a lot of us around here know the struggle to he happier with our bodies without plunging into unhealthy-doomed-to-fail-diets. So, as someone who has gotten to a pretty good place over the last 10 years since leaving the hellhole that is high school. Not all of these will work for you, but theu did work for me. Some strategies to try:
1. Find things you have easy control over and enjoy the hell out of it. Hair color, tattoos, sparkly nails. Enjoy the parts of your look that are easy to control. I never loved my upper arms until I covered them in flowers.
2. Stop doing stuff that makes you miserable or stressed just because you are “supposed to”. For me, that was shaving. Hated it. Made me anxious. Stopped doing it. It helped a lot. No one has ever burst into flames because I have armpit hair.
3. Buy a kickass jacket. Now you look awesome no matter what. This also works for boots and very loud jewelry.
4. Find some self care routines that are easy and make you feel good. I recommend some face lotion with low spf in the morning and some multivitimans and moisturizing wipes for before bed.
5. In the morning when you get dressed, look in the mirror and compliment yourself. You look awesome, bad ass, adorable, cute as fuck. This might feel like a lie at first. One day, it wont.
6. Absolutely stop counting calories. This is not helpful. Not only does it make eating stressful, it isnt doing anything for your health. Calories are meaningless. 100 calories of spinach and 100 calories of rice and 100 calories of chicken are all very different nutritionally, both good and bad. Foods dont exist on a good/bad binary and no single number is going to help you be healthy. (In general, minimize carbs and sugar. Maximize protein and leafy veggies. But its ok to splurge. Food should bring you joy. FOOD SHOULD BRING YOU JOY.)
7. Find a fitness goal that doesnt involve your weight. Exercising feels good and can help with body image, but not if you end every session by stepping on a scale. I’m training to hike the grand canyon. I need endurance amd muscle mass. My weight literally doesnt matter for that.
8. If you are getting ready for your day and you start to second guess your outfit- repeat after me “I am not obligated to look perfect all the time. It’s ok for me to be comfortable. I don’t owe anyone my looks.” The world won’t end if you go to Target without looking fuckable enough. Its ok. Most people really wont give a shit, and those who would be upset by how a stranger looks in public are gross weirdos.
9. Clothes shopping sucks because ready made clothes are meant to look good on hangers, not on human bodies. Take your time, dont blame yourself for the clothes sucking, dont feel obligated to buy clothes that dont look good because you WANT them to look good.
10. Sometimes what you need is a big glass of water and a good stretch. Back bend, toe touch, torso twist. No joke, look up some easy yoga moves. Let your body breathe.
I will strongly second the power of a great jacket and awesome footwear.
I have a pair of vibrant red relatively-low super comfortable heels from Fluevog. I wear them regularly. When I wear them even if I’m pretty sure I’m hideous I can and do look down and go “but I have RED SHOES”.
(I will also note that if viable, Fluevogs are great investment shoes. I recently had to get the whole heel replaced on those red ones and it only cost me 45$ – ie less than a pair of new relatively cheap heels – and they’re over ten years old and going to last me a lot more years and still be worth fixing for less than new shoes. So if they have a pair that you think can turn into that kind of shoe for you – the kind that you can just happily wear with everything, forever – it’s worth the initial outlay: they are very much shoes subject to the Vimes’ Boots Theory, where if you CAN make that first outlay, it will save you money down the road.)
The jacket works.
I impulse-bought a leather jacket a couple of months ago and it’s made me feel at least 50% more put together.
Boots with buckles, a black jacket with zippers, and a bright scarf make me feel like a fucking bombshell all the damn time.
I have a kickass pair of sunglasses never left the house without them, even when your not wearing makeup a cool pair we always make look good no matter what.
The real writer experience is standing in the shower and coming up with the most authentic dialogue with perfect phrasing and raw emotion in your head, then stepping out and drying your hair, putting on some clean pajamas and opening a word document to write down all your perfect ideas only to realize everything has evaporated.
I FEEL CALLED OUT
Never lose a perfect shower line again.*
*Remember to erase promptly if you share a bathroom with anyone.
I’ve used these to outline term papers. nothing like a bath to get your brain to finally kick into gear and figure out your damn thesis
Being a good person is a choice. Don’t let people fool you into believing that truly good people never have bad thoughts, are never tempted by the easier path, by the low road, never mess up or act out selfishly. Never believe a person can be good without making a conscious effort.
Every single time you do something good, you’ve made a decision to make the world a little brighter.
Goodness is not an inherent trait, it is a choice. Keep making it! I see you, I’m proud of you, and I’m rooting for you!
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